There are two kinds of intimacy within any romantic relationship:
physical and spiritual
It is often true that if one side of our intimate relationship is lacking, then likely so is the other.
Intimacy is an adventure. It takes both partners being willing to strip down to the depths of their soul — it is ultimately a process of discovery, a dance of the most true version of who you are and the most true version of your partner.
While we are all on this journey towards greater connection take the time to invest in your romance by consciously encouraging intimate experiences with your parter, even when they are challenging or uncomfortable. Allow yourself to blossom in the ways of love and show the world that true intimacy can exist with a little mindful effort.
Here are 8 creative ways to fan the flames of love and ignite a deeper connection between you and your lover:
1. Let your kisses linger
Sometimes it seems, the longer relationships go, those once epic smooches turn into quick pecks on your way in or out the door.
Did you know there are actual kiss scientists who study kissing? They are called Philematologists and they have discovered a wide range of benefits of kissing including:
- Lowering stress by releasing serotonin.
- Increasing levels of oxytocin, the “love drug,” chemically sparking connectedness.
- Kissing also reduces pain through our saliva which contains a kind of anesthetic and increases pleasure by releasing dopamine.
So go ahead, pucker up buttercups and tongue wrestle just a little longer.
2. Massage each other
You know what they say back rubs…
Learn how to touch your partner in a healing and relaxing way with a foot, hand, head or shoulder massage. Not confident in your massage skills?
3. Surprise date night
Woo your lover with a surprise date night! Remember, the best dates include 2 activities or more!
4. Flowers for the ladies, beer for the men
Gentlemen, make your woman feel like a queen and surprise her with flowers on a day she isn’t anticipating them. Expect a big smile and maybe some adorable squeals.
Ladies, never underestimate the power of handing your man an iced cold brew in a new lacy set of lingerie.
5. Travel together
Get out of your comfort zone and your daily routine with a big trip! Enjoy the adventure from the moment you book your flight to the time you arrive. Try going somewhere far, foreign and possibly uncomfortable. Watch how you both naturally have to communicate and rely on each other to have a enjoyable experience, bringing you closer and closer ever step of the way.
A personal recommendation for your adventure: go to Thailand!
6. Cultivate a sacred intimacy practice
A sacred intimacy practice is something spiritual (and possibly physical) that you share with your partner. It could mean going to church, mosque or temple together; practicing yoga or meditating together; looking quietly into each others eyes for several moments at a time; a gratitude tradition before meals; talking openly about feelings and desires.
7. Exercise together
Couples who sweat together stay together. Build the heat and spin to the beat with a blood pumping, skin glowing, heavy breathing workout at Verticity Cycling.
8. Role Play
Gussy yourselves up and head out to one of Nashville’s many hot new bars or coffee shops, separately. On the way, come up with a new character for yourself — a new name, job title, personal history and all. When you both arrive, let your characters meet for the first time. Flirt, drink, but DO NOT break character! Go home together and watch the sparks fly.
This one takes practice so give it a try and then try it again a few weeks later with a new role.